What’s your favorite day of the year? For some, it’s Christmas. Others may look forward to the first day of school, or even the last. But if you’re anything like me, your birthday is your favorite day. The one day you look forward to each year.
Yes, I’m one of those obnoxious birthday people that celebrates their birthday like it’s a national holiday. It’s only because on this special day, I get to make a wish. And, on this day, it may actually come true. Think about wishes and dreams. As adults, how much do you really believe in wishes anymore? How about dreams? Or even … magic?
My hope is that I never stop dreaming. Never stop following my heart’s desires. My hope is that you don’t stop either.
So, today I am wishing for more wishes … three to be exact. What are yours?
1. I wish my family was closer. Not geographically closer, but intimate closer. I wish we talked more and laughed more. Yesterday, my dad called me during my lunchtime. I asked him if he had called for anything in particular, and he said “No, I just missed you. That’s all.” My heart melted. I want more of those moments, but with my mother, sister, brothers, aunts, uncles, cousins. And I mean real live talking. Not texting. Not Facebook. But in-person, actual conversations. My wish is that I slow down this year, and be a better daughter, sister, aunt, niece and granddaughter. My wish will start with me reaching out to my family and starting these conversations.
It’s been two years since my grandmother passed, and one of the things I remember most about her was how she started a tradition after I graduated college and I was living in Boston. She called me every Sunday afternoon. The phone calls were brief, but I remember them. She was just trying to keep me close – to keep her family close. And I will always remember her in my heart because of little things like that.
2. I wish for compassion. For some reason, and I don’t know where this comes from, I feel like I always have to keep it together. Do you ever feel like that? This need for perfection, or for as close to perfection as possible. I try to keep everything balanced and in order. It’s the Virgo in me, I guess. Virgos strive for perfection. But this year, I am letting go. My wish is to be as close to imperfect as possible, in fact. To give in to my flaws and stop judging the flaws in others. My wish is to be more compassionate with others and myself. And I’m going to start right now with this blog post. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be an expression of myself.
3. I wish for home. If you know me in person, you’ll know that I enjoy traveling and adventure. But as I get older, I long to plant some roots. I dated this guy once who said a song titled “For Rent” by Dido reminded him of me. I asked why. He said because that’s how you live your life, like it’s for rent. He was right. But I’ve learned that home is not a place, necessarily. In our digital age, you can stay connected with your family and friends via Facebook. You can talk face-to-face on an iPhone. So while home is the people you love the most and those who love you — and you can stay connected to them anywhere — it still helps to be in the same physical place. And I’m on the right path to building my own “home” here in St. Louis.